“Exes are like herpes, they don’t really go away” – Sally Kenneth Dadzie
Do you have an ex?
Do I have one?
The answer is more obvious but can’t be tossed away. You and I have, at one time or the other, been involved with another person one way or another. We all have ex-friend, ex-co worker, ex-lover, ex-room mate etc. But I will be zeroing on the ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend.
Like the quote above culled from one of Sally’s series, exes like herpes, don’t really go away and can’t be wished away no matter how hard we try to. They sometimes stick closer than our brothers and sisters.
Exes that we’ve shared intimate moments together, especially the ones that we’ve been eroticically involved with, have a way of switching on the floodgates of emotion we have tried or are trying to shut off.
Like one of our local pallance will say “once debe, always debe debe”- meaning once we’ve “offed” our garments and crossed the line to the holy of holies, its almost impossible to see each other without a flicker of emotion storming our hearts either a negative or a positive one.
My grouse is with the exes that do not want to remain an ex; they are hell bent on being a part of and dictating your present. I remember a lady who was supposed to be an ex but still had the guts to call the guy, that was married already, and asked him for sex while she was also married! Absurd and ridiculous as it may sound, these things are what drive some homely lovey husbands or wives to the arms of an ex.
The exes can so much be a pain in the ass to the extent of timing you to pick out vibrations from you to enter through a crevice or small disagreement at home! Beware friends, it is not worth it, opening your door to an ex!
How do I deal with an ex?
# Never open up your challenges in the home front to an ex.
# As much as possible, avoid calling or picking calls from an ex, especially in an ungodly hour.
# Build up on your relationship with your present and future and forget the past.
# Focus more on yourself and your happiness if you are still single or more on the strong point of your present partner, not taking journey down the memory lane to enjoy your past since no one can drive forward by looking mainly at the back (past).
# Please add your comment on how you were able to deal with your ex especially the nasty and poke nosing type who wants to be relevant in your now!
Special thanks to @Moskedapages and @emini_ANOTI.